Have you ever heard of a coregasm?
Orgasms don’t always come easy, but thanks to the extremely subjective nature of human pleasure, there are so many ways to surpass that peak. And I think we can agree that it is worth it, no matter what type of orgasm you experience. Although the orgasm percentage for penis-havers is higher (boo), the erectile tissue for people with vaginas is spread out over a larger area, meaning more erogenous zones to enjoy and more ways to reach peak. So there is no reason that with a lil’ effort, lots of communication partners, and a clear understanding of your body, that orgasm gap can’t be closed.
1. G-spot orgasm
“The G spot is a hypothesized highly erogenous area on the anterior (or front) vaginal wall of the urethral sponge that can be stimulated during sexual activity,” expert says. “It is the female equivalent to the prostate
How to have a G-spot orgasm: “Pee first so you don’t hold yourself back from the peak, as G-spot stimulation can lead to a need-to-pee sensation and female ejaculation,” says Amy Levine, sex instructor and originator of Ignite Your Pleasure. “Insert your middle finger in the vagina, on the belly-button side of the body. You’ll feel an area that’s likely corrugated in texture. Stop there and use a come-hither motion to stimulate or a toy rubbing or vibrating in that area.”
Or, if you’re having penetrative intercourse, try a posture that hits your G-spot—rear-entry positions work well for this—and keep stimulating the area until you peak
2. Clitoral Orgasm
The clitoris is a minor, nerve-dense structure rested at the top of the vaginal opening, and serves no purpose other than to provide sexual pleasure. “If you’ve never had an orgasm before, you want to start with the clitoris,” Expert says.
How to have a clitoral orgasm: First things first, you need to figure out if you choose direct or indirect stimulation, which is to say, touching the clitoris itself, or through the labia and clitoral hood. Expert suggests rubbing it with your fingers (rather than a sex toy) at first, “going in a spiral type of shape within your clitoris.”
Start lovely far from it and then spiral in closer to it until you’re finally spiraling over it, and then spiraling back out,” she says. Remark when and how your body responds: With that knowledge base, experiment with different types of touch until you find the one that works for you
3. Anal orgasm
“There are shared nerves from the anterior wall of the rectum to the vagina,” Dr. Loanzon previously told Women’s Health. “So for vagina owners, it may be possible for sexual arousal to occur from rectal stimulation,” she says. Plus, the legs of the clitoris stretch all the way back to the anus, so back door stimulation can boost the clit, too.
How to have an anal , a certified sex educator and the CEO of b-vibe recommends incorporating your She also suggests easing into anal play by inserting a finger first, “so that you can be the giver and receiver.” Use lots of lube, too, and work your path in slowly
You probably already know where and what the nipples are, but what you might not know is that some people can orgasm solely from their stimulation. As Men’s Health reported, in one study of 213 women, 29 percent recorded having had a breast-based orgasm at some point in their lives.
“When the nipples are stimulated, oxytocin is released, which causes the same uterine and vaginal contractions associated with orgasm,” says ob-gyn Christiane Northrup, MD, author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom. “This brings more blood flow to the genitals and can trigger an orgasm.”
How to have a nipple orgasm: “When it comes to nipple/breast pleasure, I wouldn’t get too hung up on the goal of orgasm,” O’Reilly says. “Focus on the pleasure and see where it leads.”
O’Reilly recommends experimenting with the area right above the areola, which many people find to be the most touch-sensitive. “Start on the outer edges, using the backs of your fingers ,and circle your way slowly into the center,” O’Reilly says. You can also roll the nipple between thumb and forefinger.
5. Skin orgasm
A skin orgasm is also named “frisson,” like the tingle that operates through your limbs when you hear a particularly affecting song. Maybe you get goosebumps, maybe your hair stands up, or maybe you get a small shiver.
How to have a skin orgasm: Research shows that skin orgasms are most commonly triggered by music—but emotionally-evocative scenes in movies, moving artworks, or even other people with whom you feel a very particular connection can spark frisson. It’s an unpredictable one, though